Melissa Fisher Goldman, LCSW 

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A parent's inspirational thoughts after loss

Personal story of fetal demise

Dads grieve too

emotionally surviving miscarriage

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Dear those of you silently hurting, 

Years ago there was a campaign in the mental health profession to help the “Silent Grievers”. At the time this referred to children.  Now there are many resources including therapists, groups, programs and camps focused on children and grief. One such resource is

I would argue that a new campaign is needed for another group of  “Silent Grievers”, those family and friends experiencing challenges and losses that can occur when growing a family.  Society has not caught up with the needs of those experiencing these kinds of losses.  Those that do acknowledge the loss of these life transitions usually focus on the mom to be.  But we know dads, grandparents, siblings, extended family, and friends grieve too. Well-meaning people may try to minimize your loss and say less then helpful things such as: “you can always adopt,” “at least it happened now and not when he was a real person” and “maybe it wasn’t meant to be.” Your loss can not be minimized. To heal this loss it must be validated, addressed, and nurtured. 

We talk about the loss of loved ones having no time line and being unique to the individual.  Why hasn’t society realized this pertains to all grief?  Nobody questions someone grieving the loss of a parent for a year or more, or honoring anniversaries of death going forward, in fact we often join them in the ritual.  Those of you who have dealt with these types of losses know that you often grieve alone.  You do not have to! You deserve the support you need.

I am available for individual, couples, family, and grief counseling specializing in these difficult life transitions.  You will be heard.  Your grief will be validated.  Together we will help you find peace and ease through these difficult life transitions.

Call today and let the healing begin!


Melissa Fisher Goldman, LCSW